tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8051901401055456884.post8047921749897634222..comments2023-09-08T04:00:37.307-04:00Comments on Grrrl Perspective: On girl-hate and sisterhood.Valeriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13068961597210428723noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8051901401055456884.post-46956651893737888082013-09-22T22:36:47.318-04:002013-09-22T22:36:47.318-04:00I disagree - socially women are raised differently...I disagree - socially women are raised differently, the vast majority engage in girl hate...when we choose not to spend time with other women we are not saying we are different, it is saying that we don't want that sort of negativity around us. If we find women who don't engage in girl hate then fantastic, we are all different and some do not attack other women, but socially these women are in the minority whether you like it or not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8051901401055456884.post-83340218258074054002011-02-08T02:57:17.795-05:002011-02-08T02:57:17.795-05:00I love this post. I've always had lots of casu...I love this post. I've always had lots of casual male friends and a few close female friends. I think it's cause I was always tagging along with my uncle and I ended up friends with a lot of his friends. I don't know. Either way I don't like people who hate the "other" and I don't trust people who hate their own. I was into a beautiful hippie boy for a while when I was younger and it got to be such a turn off when he'd get on his feminist soap box and turn it into something about how awful men were. As a woman, of course I'm not going to want to spend my time with people who hate women, but it turns out I really don't want to spend time with people who stereotype and disrespect any group, whether I'm a part of that group or not. Well, anyway, thank you for this post. It stirred up my feisty.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8051901401055456884.post-30191079812784838882010-12-22T01:23:01.605-05:002010-12-22T01:23:01.605-05:00Hey Mioneko, I'm really glad you enjoyed the p...Hey Mioneko, I'm really glad you enjoyed the post! I'd be flattered if you put it in your zine. Just cite it as- "Valerie from grrrlperspective.blogspot.com" please. Thanks!<br /><br />I'd love to check out some of your zines. If you have a link were I can order/trade them feel free to post it in a comment here or email it to me at-<br />alienshexv@gmail.com :-)Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13068961597210428723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8051901401055456884.post-31293130858700557162010-12-21T06:14:41.774-05:002010-12-21T06:14:41.774-05:00This is amazing! Can I put this in my zine? xxThis is amazing! Can I put this in my zine? xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8051901401055456884.post-1821078426843856122010-11-24T00:39:44.120-05:002010-11-24T00:39:44.120-05:00Thank you very much! It always bothers me when I h...Thank you very much! It always bothers me when I hear girls go on and on about how much those who share their parts are the bane of their existence. The majority of my friends are guys, but it's nothing to do with hating other girls. I'm from a small town and the majority of the people I happen to get along with are male. My few female friends are among my closest and most adored, especially my platonic lifemate. <br /><br />I think a lot of younger girls it an attempt to impress guys- make it seem like they're unique and understand men while still being available sexually. So much of a girls teens and early twenties is centered on sex and dating that it's downright scary. Truth is, most guys I know realize that these declarations of girl-hate are total BS. It's not the way to a guy's heart- I'm always very clear when I think somethings sexist when hanging out the guys, and they generally shut up because I'm truly "one of the guys"- not because I'm masculine (I'm very big on the high heels, dresses, and lipstick) or attempt to hate on my gender, but because I'm a member of the friendship group and they respect me and my opinions as a person. Myself and a couple other gay girls actually hung out with the same guys in high school a lot of the time, and I later realized we got along so well not because of the lack of sexual tension (the only dating between us was myself and one of the girls, and we had the most laid-back break-up I've ever heard of, let alone experienced), but because we didn't have to think of each other as the "the other": we were just a bunch of friends who enjoyed the same things and got along well. When you take away the idea that men and woman are of different substance, you get along better with most everyone. I get the same experience with the friends my brother and I share- once the need to see someone is a romantic or sexual sense is gone, you're more likely to see someone as a person and not a gender.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com